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Monday, May 21, 2012

When Life is Crazy

Lately, my life has been crazy. Not necessarily in a bad way, but in a busy, busy, will-it-ever-slow-down way. As an example: last week, my father had knee replacement surgery -- on both knees. Because of this, I spent several days last week at my parents' house taking care of their dog.

The week before that, I had a fairly large freelance project to get out the door. The week before THAT, my grandmother was injured in an unexpected way that I'm still reeling from. And this week? Well, my father is still in the hospital for rehab, and today is my twin boys' birthday. Thursday is my oldest son's AND my brother's birthday. Lots of birthday celebrations this week.

In addition, I have other commitments on my plate, writing to do (my new book is due in July), and all of the normal, everyday type of responsibilities that exist when you have a family. I actually had to put on my to-do list that my boys' have a permission slip needing signed, or I would (yes, truly) forget at this point. So, to say I've been busy is a little bit of an understatement.

I'm okay with that, though. What I'm not okay with is feeling so overwhelmed that I might let someone down. Whether that someone is a family member, a friend, my editor and/or agent, or myself. Basically, I want to be superwoman and do it all and make everyone happy. I LIKE making everyone happy.

Of course, that's impossible. Something I should know by now, for sure. But that doesn't seem to stop me from trying. Maybe I end up accomplishing more because of that, or maybe I just end up going around in circles never really accomplishing anything the way I want it to be done, or maybe I'm just too darn hard on myself. I haven't quite decided yet. :)

However, one thing I have learned is that life doesn't tend to cooperate. There is always something around the corner that is unplanned, that you somehow then have to work in with everything else -- everything you HAVE planned. And then, every now and then, life throws yet another something else your way that you have to add to the increasing amount of balls you're trying to juggle.

That's a little how I feel now, and while most of the busy/crazy stuff isn't "bad," they're still balls that need to be juggled. When I'm this busy, I tend to have a hard time sleeping because I'm thinking of all that needs to be done. Also, I tend to push myself even harder, forgetting to take any sort of a mental break so I can recharge.

None of this helps. Somehow, though, I manage to cross one thing after another off my list and move onto the next without losing my sanity. How do I do this without going crazy? Um. I don't know. I guess I just do the best I can each day, make a plan for the next day, and so on and so on.  I tell myself that if I don't, no one else is going to, and then I'll just have more to do when the next "something" comes along.

What about you? How do you handle everything when life seems to be whipping one speed ball at you after another? I'd love to hear your thoughts, and I'll be around checking in today--in between planning for my boys' birthday dinner, wrapping, writing, editing, and anything else that I can fit in.

Tracy Madison is an award-winning author of contemporary and paranormal romance. She currently writes for Harlequin Special Edition. Learn more about Tracy at her website: www.tracymadison.com.


Shay Lacy said...

Tracy: I think many women share your Superwoman complex. Like you, I try to keep lists so I don't forget to do anything. Mainly, though, I have to take vacation days from the day job to squeeze in everything (like this week). I'm waiting for the sprinkler system to complete its cycle so I can start washing out cupboards for spring cleaning. Good luck on your "to do" lists.

Jayne Kingston said...

For me it's a matter of making myself take a big step backward so I can gain some perspective on what is most important to me to accomplish, and in what order.

And I'm feelin' ya' on the lots of birthdays close together. Birthday Season - there are nine in my family in a month - just ended yesterday. happy sigh.

Tracy Madison said...

Hi, Shay! You're so right. So many of my friends share the superwoman complex, and while it's easy for me to tell them to slow down, that they don't have to do it all, somehow it's harder to make myself believe that when I'm in the middle of craziness.

And ugh on having to take vacation time to take care of stuff! Vacation time should truly be about kicking back and relaxing. Try to find some time to do that this week!

Tracy Madison said...

That's great advice, Jayne, and exactly what I try to do. Unfortunately, I'm not that great at "gaining perspective," LOL.

NINE birthdays in a month? Wowza. Well, I suppose in a way, having all of mine in one week is better than being spread out over an entire month.

Constance Phillips said...

Big hugs, Tracy. Try to remember to take some "me time" now and again. Read for pleasure or play a game ( :-) )

You'll get it all done, but you need to be in one piece when you check the last item off your to-do list.

Em-Musing said...

You're a strong woman who does more than so many other people so I'm sending you a big ATTA GIRL! Taking care of loved ones sucks the energy right out of your marrow. I know. Echoing Connie's sentiments...find some time to relax and do what makes you happy.