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Friday, January 11, 2013

No chips (FOR ME)


This new year’s resolution will be different
It’s almost mid-January and many people have already fallen off the New Year’s Resolution(s) wagon. But not me! Before you cheer me on, congratulate me, remind me that there are still 11.5 months to go, or stop reading this post in boredom/angst/disgust, I will tell you I think I’ve found the secret to sticking to a resolution. Intrigued? Willing to read more? (I hope so, because I am a thriller writer and everyone knows the secret to being a good-to-great thriller writer is capturing the reader’s attention by introducing a question or series of questions in his/her mind and then trickling out or holding back the answer(s) as the story unfolds.)

Previous (failed) attempts
Before I reveal the “secret” of sticking to a resolution, (this is part of trickling out/holding back) I will acknowledge that this is not based on any clinical evidence or behavioral research or—heck—even my own experience of making it through an entire year without stumbling or falling flat off that proverbial wagon. But I will say that, so far, it’s working and I have a good feeling it will continue to work throughout the year—not something I have felt or even experienced with past resolutions. These have included (more trickling out/holding back) the usual health-related standbys like “exercise more,” “drink more water,” “eat less junk food,” as well as more New Age-y attempts to “practice gratitude,” “be happy with who/how I am right here, right now,” and “breathe in hope, breathe out acceptance.” That was last year’s and even though I still like the phrase, I’m not sure I even remembered it past Week 1, let alone acted on it!

The 4 S’s that will lead to success
But this year’s resolution is simple, specific, satisfying and not that big a sacrifice (FOR ME). It is, in two words, “no chips.” In more words, it is “I am giving up potato/corn/cheese-like chips and similar salty snack foods.” Simple because I can remember it (without writing it down!) and that makes it easier for me to DO. Specific because it is one food group that I can eliminate from my diet (not like giving up chocolate, which comes in a bunch of forms—liquid, soft, hard, baked, plain, creamy, cookie, cake, yummmm.) Satisfying because I know that salty snacks are pretty much empty calories, so giving them up is a worthwhile goal. And finally, here’s the kicker that may be the REAL SECRET TO SUCCESS--it’s not that big a sacrifice (FOR ME.)

Knowing I can do it
I write that realizing I amped up my intake of chips all last year for reasons not fully known to me. Maybe it’s because chocolate wasn’t cutting it any more as my go-to choice for a treat, or because my lunchtime sandwich looked so lonely without its sidekick of chips, or because I just wanted the salt or the crunch or both. Whatever the reason(s), I still say it’s not that big a sacrifice (FOR ME) because I went for years without chips (unlike chocolate…but I digress, again!), didn’t miss them, and know I can get back to that place. Maybe that’s the biggest “secret” of sticking with any resolution….knowing it can be done!

How about you? Any resolutions for 2013? Believe you’ll stick with them? Any “secrets” for success?   
 
PM Kavanaugh writes character-driven thrillers spiked with romance. Her debut novel, DIE RUN HIDE, is available through Crimson Romance, Amazon, Barnes & Noble and iTunes, among others. She blogs regularly for MVRWA and can be found on Facebook and Twitter under pmkavanaugh.

 

5 comments:

Shay Lacy said...

Ducking head. I haven't made my 2013 resolutions yet. I just came out of my editing cave day before yesterday. I want to resolve all kinds of things, but simpler...and less...is better. I'm befuddled by your "no chips" resolution. Can it be that simple to succeed? Good luck!

Sloan Parker said...

Love, love the four S's approach. And I like what you said about making a resolution for something you know you can do. Mine for this year is to be happy and in the moment as often as I can. I don't want to live with stress about things I can't control so this is my attempt to be present with the people I care about, doing things that I'm passionate about and enjoy doing. Best of luck on your "no chips" resolution, Patrice!!

RT Wolfe said...

Yikes. I've been so busy I haven't even considered one. My resolution, therefore, is to finish the third book in my romantic supsense trilogy then take a break and read some Nora. Thank you!
-R.T. Wolfe

Constance Phillips said...

Patrice, Such great advice. I love this approach to making and keeping resolutions.

PM Kavanaugh said...

Thanks for stopping by and commenting, ladies!
Shay--no need for head ducking. And it's only January, so plenty of time to make (and keep) 2013 resolutions. Why "befuddled"? Yes, I believe it can be that simple to succeed in keeping a resolution. Try picking 1 thing that meets the 4 "S's" for you...and report back. I'll be doing the same in a few months!
Sloan--"Happy and in the moment" are GREAT resolutions. Good luck to you, too!
R.T.--Good luck finishing up your trilogy. Do you read both Nora and Nora w/a JD Robb? I'm addicted to the "...in Death" series.
Constance--I love it, too, and will be reporting back in a future post how well it's working for me. Thanks.